Archive for July, 2011



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Anyone who’s read the “About Me” section on this blog knows that the part of the whole wedding that I was least crazy about was the ceremony. I don’t particularly enjoy public speaking, and was afraid the whole seriousness of the moment would come across as awkward at best. The whole thing felt unstructured and overlooked, which it was. As a great sage once said: “I felt impotent and out of control. Which I really, really hate.” My natural need for order was battling with my complete lack of knowing (or caring?) what to do.

Meeting with the judge helped – we figured out a procession of family members that added structure, and she had a sampling of non-denominational readings that added some length to the service. I also decided to hire a couple extremely talented local musicians (violin and guitar) to play as people are getting seated and during the procession. Their only instructions being to play Simon & Garfunkel’s “Only Living Boy in New York” for the procession and “Kathy’s Song” when I appear, and maybe some Journey after we kiss – other than that, rock hits of their own choosing.

But what about our vows? For some reason this was just completely stumping me, and at the time, Google was failing me for inspiration.* I happened upon a perfect poem for my sister to read after the vows, but what about when the spotlight was on us? I wrote and rewrote heartfelt words to recite to Butch, while he seemed to be happy waiting until the night before to throw something together. After some helpful nagging, he did just that: He threw something together – and it was PERFECT! So out the window went my complicated paragraph and instead I wrote something that matched Butchy’s simple words. I guess he might know a thing or two about weddings after all…

*Now, naturally after the fact, I found a couple great lists (here and here) of readings from Offbeat Bride.

Photo from The Knotty Bride

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This is what the forecast currently is for my wedding day: 60% chance of scattered t-storms and extremely muggy. While I am a bit worried  that my notoriously difficult hair may end up looking like Phil Spector on a good day, my main concern is for photos and that the ceremony is supposed to be on the Winery lawn – with no tent.

Now both the photos and ceremony can be moved inside, for better or worse, but how do I keep all the guests comfortable? And how do I still look cute with frizzed hair and rain boots? Easy, apparently:

From Stephanie Williams Photography

From The Process of Remembering

From HM Photography

From diyweddingsmag

From The Uptown Bride

From Meg Perotti

From Wedding Dresses

Even though I knew there was a risk of rain when I booked a venue near the River, I’m hoping that the North Country manages to maintain its July track-record of beautiful weekends. I’ll throw whatever is needed out to the universe to turn the tides (jetstream?) in my favor (even hanging a rosary outside my window)…but if not I’ll pick up some cute galoshes and a bunch of brightly colored umbrellas!

And, apparently, rain on your wedding day is good luck…some even believe rain on your wedding day means that your marriage will be blessed with fertility and good fortune. And on a more practical note, if the wedding manages to go smoothly despite heavenly turbulance, then at least we’ll know we can weather (ha) any obstacle!

Scattered t-storms icon from hnl.ca

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In the interest of including a dose of reality on my wedding blog, below is an article I read recently on divorce. The author, a divorcee herself, was inspired by the recent drop in divorces among college-educated couples (always a good sign). In short, while marriage was considered your “duty” 50+ years ago, the more modern view of equality and independent lives results in a happier marriage, especially for women.


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Despite dealing with finger-related complications from a recent surgery, my mom has been steadily working on sourcing and designing the paper flowers for the tin-can centerpieces. Originally we were thinking crepe paper flowers, but the color selection of crepe up in Maine left much to be desired, so she switched to tissue paper. Here’s what she’s come up with so far:

So cute! And those heart stamens are made out of a garland that she found. I love the colors and the different patterns mixed in add a nice touch. And she will wisely be traveling with them flat-packed, so assembling them together the week of will be a nice crafty activity.

This week has been a challenge of trying to get ahold of vendors to finalize details. Sure,  it was a holiday weekend, plus my home internet is oh-so-conveniently down until further notice, but it’s amazing to me how uneager these people are to get paid. And there was also the realization that if my proposed seating configuration is approved by the Winery, that there will be less tables…which means that I made a lot of extra centerpieces, both embroidery hoops and cans – YAY for wasted effort!

But anyway, things are moving along and I’m steadily making lists and checking them twice…just trying to keep the big picture in mind – I will have fun and any major disasters can be avoided by spreading lamb’s blood on the door.

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